Posts Tagged ‘new year’

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You’ve got 53 days, a little over 1200 hours, or if it makes you feel better,4 million seconds until it’s January 1. After we smash the black eyed peas & cabbage- after we realize that we way overspent for Christmas, again, comes the realization that we’ve got to set some goals. I know what you’re thinking, “Oh Lord here we go again!”..coming soon will be a deluge of posts and podcasts of how to set and stick to a goal…and most of us-to the tune of 92% of us, will break from these goals in days, weeks, or a few short months. (If you’re part of the 8% who keep to your goals, you disgust me.)
My question is this. Why wait 53 more days? Why not make today your New Year- your January 1- your New Year? Who says we have to wait for the ball to drop in Times Square to start building a better life?
Starting is hard… it’s hard because starting is beginning again (for the 12,317th time).  It’s a reminder that we’ve let things go for far too long. Whether it’s in our finances, waistline, or our workouts, we stand there looking in the mirror or at our accounts and beat the hell out of ourselves because we’re not who or where we once were.  We sentence ourselves to eternal condemnation…if we talked to others liked we talked to ourselves we’d have no friends… which is probably why we’re not friends with ourselves.
So here’s the deal… instead of waiting for the New Year on the calendar… make a New You starting now. Start now and you’ll be 50 days ahead. Starting now minimizes the pressure – the pressure of “the New Year.” It eliminates the psychological pressure you put on yourself, because instead of The Date,  it’s just an early start. You’re tricking your mind in a sense because instead of going all Beast Mode in January, working out three hours a day and being so sore that you’re walking like you crapped on yourself – feeling so bad that you just end up quitting anyway, start now and begin building incrementally. Instead of spending hours, just bust a sweat in 30 minutes with some sort of physical activity – whether it’s three days a week, Monday through Friday, or all seven days, start incrementally building your way into the New Year. And as you start your physical activity, swap out some of the foods for better choices- it doesn’t mean you eliminate eating altogether, it simply means that you satisfy your cravings – that sweet tooth, for healthier alternative. See, starting early-i.e. now (yes when you get off today),  you’ll get the soreness out of the way, you’ll begin to make better food choices, and you’ll start building a new you in bit sized increments. It’s making the tiny course corrections in working toward a goal without the formality of a January 1 date.
If finances is your issue …oh I know you plan on making $800 credit card payments for 12 months come next year (probably once), but why not make nibble at your debt by making payments earlier- by paying an extra $25.  It’s not huge-and that’s the what’s great about this start, it’s so subtly simple, it’s easy to do and not miss…think of it as a momentum investment towards getting your debt down. Hell, $25 extra each week- the money you’d would normally spend on a box of fried chicken and Yellow Tail wine, will get you a $200 head start toward bringing your debt down – and who knows, because you’re committed to the act, informally, you may just start adding a little bit more to see even faster results. You’ve got to just get things rolling-remember a snowball starts with a snowflake.
Think about it, you can do this with anything in life… if it’s reading more, eating better, saving for that vacation, being more effective in sales, or even starting a podcast… my January 1 started in October. I’d been putting off doing a podcast for years-waiting for the perfect time, equipment, and material, and I finally decided to just start. I said for six days each week,  I would commit  five minutes each day to share something that I’ve learned along the way. That podcast is what you now know as The Sales Life.
Make your January 1 today.
Check out the daily 5 min episodes of The Sales Life Podcast
I’ll see you on the Blacktop.

“Because if you’re not willing to fail, you’re not really willing to succeed.  Failure means you have skin in the game.  You took a risk.  You did something that the 99 percent isn’t willing to do. New Years is just like any other sunset: another blank page of your life that you get to author any way you want.

The goals that really matter aren’t really about a New Year, but a New You.”

New Year or New You? Pick YOUR word

Why do we alienate what we have and covet what we don’t? We’re quick to ignore what is in our search for what else in lifealways longing for the shiny balls of strengths that everyone else seem to possess-ignorant of our own. You have strengths that you do not fully utilize, why?  Because your strengths aren’t painful-and when it doesn’t cause discomfort, when something comes so effortlessly, so naturally, it often gets taken for granted.

For some people what may take them months to read a book, you complete it in a few hours; while some unsuccessfully try to cram into memory a blur of stats, facts, reviews, rebuttals and closes, you’re one and done-thanks to your photographic memory; where some find meeting new people very awkward, you have the uncanny ability to get a complete stranger to open up and share their whole life story with you in minutes. You have dozens of strengths-strengths that others could only wish for, yet years later you still find yourself standing in the familiar rut of, average at best, on the way to your grave of untapped potential. Like a dog faithful to its abusive master, your strengths are present, but underserved.

In the absence of tension, strengths morph into weaknesses. You can’t walk between skyscrapers on a loose tightrope; you won’t win the Tour de France with slack in your chain; you’ll never be able to play like Hendrix with loose guitar strings, and you’ll never realize your full potential without the tension. Your greatest opportunity for growth comes from the tension between complacency and discontent.

Many of your greatest strengths were unearthed during your weakest moments in life-all thanks to tension. When there were moments that you were physically, mentally, spiritually, or financially at your rope’s end, it was tension that tied the knot enabling you to hold on. You weren’t focused on the realities of what couldn’t be done-you were too focused on the possibilities of what had to be done. And like the tenacious jaws of a rabid dog you refused to let go- narrowing your focus, upping your intensity, and stretching your resolve…until tension finally broke the obstacle standing in your way. And that was during your weakest, lowest moments in life. Just think if you treated your strengths much the same way?

Instead of using your strengths as a crutch, limping into the kingdoms of Just Enough, what if you used it instead to vault into newer, higher realms of possibilities? If you did it when you didn’t think you had it [in you], then why, when you know you have it [in you] don’t you use it to do more?

 In the sport of pole-vaulting, the faster you run the higher you’ll go. Energy is transferred from the runner’s feet to the pole, vaulting him over the bar. Your energy is found in your strengths, the problem is you’re not running fast enough. It’s time to stop strolling and start running. Sure, adding tension causes discomfort, soreness, and fatigue, but that’s where the growth is found and that’s precisely the point when most people let up-when it begins to hurt.  We may not always like the effort, but we always enjoy the results. Keep you lines of success tight by dripping tension as needed.

If you plan on going higher, you’re going to have to run faster. Set the bar and lace up.

I’ll see you on the Blacktop.

Centuries ago, before elaborate bottling processes and wineries, wines were transported in wineskins. It was advised to never pour new wine into old wineskins because old wineskins were contaminated with fermented bacteria. New wineskins lose their pliability as they age and burst when the new wine is poured into old skins, the skins no longer have the flexibility to expand and contract to the fermented gases.

Isn’t that what we do? As we age, we lack the flexibility to adjust to life and earn the label of being “set in our ways.” We use the excuse of “that’s just who I am,” as if it’s ok and then can’t understand why year after year nothing is changing. Each day, each week, month after month, and every year, we receive new wine. Daily, we receive new opportunities that can turn our lives around, but we are pouring new wine, new opportunities into old wineskins. Our mind’s old skins, fermented with past failures, setbacks, and negative thoughts are bursting, spilling new opportunities onto the ground and becoming washed away with our self-imposed limitations. Just as a snake sheds its skin and begins anew, begin each day anew with expectations. When your expectations rise above your past and are not limited on your present circumstances, a new skin, your new beginning, is set in motion. You will receive what you expect.