It can be really tough to put your best work out there…
…you finally worked up enough courage to publish your art -whether it’s a blog, book, writing, podcast, video, teaching a how-to skill, or starting your new business & somebody trolls along and instantly rips your hardest work to shreds with a thumbs down, shitty comments, or 1 star rating.
That shit hurts. You think to yourself, “All I’m trying to do is help…express…or share my struggles so others can work through their struggles too!
And in seconds they torch you…
When Gary Veynerchuk was asked how he deals with the haters (& he’s got plenty), he simply answers, “They don’t know me…”
Anyone can come at him on social media; anyone can say something mean, hurtful and negative. They can mock him & make videos about him.
And how does he deal with them?
He doesn’t…
Why put any weight into what other people say?
Why invest emotional currency into other people’s opinion of you?
Because the truth is, it’s got nothing to do with you…
And it’s got everything to do with them.
Their judgments say more about them and less about you.
You’re just a reflection of their unhappiness …
They see that you refused to accept that this is all there is in life…
They notice that you want demand something bigger from life…
Not only will you take your share but your unfair share because not everyone is bold enough to step to life’s table and expect more.
They see that you have grabbed life by the balls, and are willing to get out there and even get back up after you’ve stumbled.
People notice what you’re doing and see what they’re not.
Judging’s easy…doing is hard..
They don’t want to do the hard…
So they do what’s easy…
They judge you…
It’s easy to react at what you’re doing so as not to examine what they’re not.
They’re too busy finding your flaws instead of strengthening their faults.
Oh, and they give all kinds of excuses…
“Oh, he didn’t have to struggle like I did…
He didn’t come from the same rough neighborhood as I did…
He he didn’t have to deal with the same sort of issues that I did…
My mom and dad were never there-I had to raise myself & my siblings…
I don’t have that color skin, education, nor privileged life like they do..
There are many excuses why they can’t, when they only need one reason why they can…
You should be the example, but instead you’re their excuse.
They should look at you- even if they don’t all the way line up with everything that you say or do…
Hell, I don’t line up with everything Gary Vee says, but I admire what he’s doing. I admire that he’s willing to just keep coming at it. I admire that he’s willing to keep showing up.
Respect…
Respect the fact that you keep showing up & putting your shit out there…
& if they don’t respect it you should…
It’s got nothing to do with you, remember?
They don’t know you..
Because you barely even know yourself. (And I’m being generous here.)
You barely know you, so how in the hell can anybody else know you well enough to judge you?
Even your family members don’t even know you…
Your mom probably doesn’t know you, because you barely know you.
You’re discovering new things, capabilities, & capacities about yourself all the time.
And most of them aren’t discovered until you’ve failed!
Oh but people are quick to call you out on that, right?
They know things about you, but they don’t truly know you.
They’re trying to size you up…but how do you size anything up that’s not a finished product.
You’re a work in progress not regress…
So when somebody you know or don’t know comes along & tries to resurrect something that’s already happened…
Trent Shelton in his new book, The Greatest You, says when people come at him and they try to bring up his past he says,
You knew me, but you don’t know me.
Oh, all that you’re saying? That’s what you knew about me…
But that’s not what you know…
All they’re doing is rereading old, bad chapters aloud.
Those old chapters have no power over me because I own those chapters…
It’s only when you don’t own your old chapters will they have any power over you…
We’ve all got a past…
We’ve all got old chapters….
“But it was the old, bad chapters that led directly to the new chapters in my life,” Shelton said.
So when people come by, and they sit there and they try to reread the old chapters of your life..
Own it.
Yeah, that was me.
Use your old chapters as a measurement as to how far you’ve come.
Chapters in your ongoing narrative of life.
People stop writing their chapters because they fear being judged.
So they let others hold their pen.
Even if you worked a 9-5 job, stayed to yourself, worked & came straight home they’d still judge you.
So if they’re gonna judge no matter what, why not give them something massive to judge you by?
REALLY give them something to talk about.
Play big today and for the rest of your life.
Play so big & make such an impact that they’ll talk about you now and long after you’re gone.
Stay in The Sales Life 💪
~Marsh
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Dr Edith Eva Eger is a Holocaust survivor and the author of the book, “The Choice.” She told Oprah, when the prison gates of Auschwitz concentration camp were opened, many of the prisoners, walked through the gates, but turned around and went back and sat down, because they didn’t know what to do with their newfound freedom.
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