Posts Tagged ‘belief’

When CNN personality Van Jones was young he asked his dad to give the unfortunate money that way they would no longer be poor. Upon hearing  his plea, Jones’ father leaned forward in his recliner and said, “Son, that may stop ’em from being broke for maybe a day or two, but if a person is still poor in their skills, poor in their education, poor in their self-esteem, & you hand them a bunch of money? They’ll be broke again by tomorrow...every poor kid has got to climb that ladder out of poverty on his or her own efforts. That’s the responsibility you have to develop yourself so that nobody can keep you poor or make you poor again. You have to make it so you know too much; you bring too many skills to the table. Then you can reach down for the next man and help him climb a rung. But no one can do the real climbing but you.”  

 

You can’t have what your first not willing to become.…scratch that…You can’t keep what you’re not willing to become…sure you can manipulate it..you can catch a wave of luck…chance can randomly fall in your lap, but if you don’t become before you have, you’ll never keep what you got because becoming is an embodiment. It’s acquiring the necessary skills, education, and loving yourself in such a way that when “it” happens it’s of no surprise..it doesn’t catch you off-guard because you were already be-ing before come manifested.

Coming up as a salesperson, I caught wind of how much the managers were making so that became my target and within a year I was promoted into management…only by title not by income. Oh I had the new title printed on my new business cards, but I wasn’t making anything close to what the others managers were making-as a matter of fact, I was making less as a manager than I was as a salesperson. When I spoke out of frustration, I was told, “You’re paid for what you know and as a manager, you don’t know very much.” It was hard..I had to do the menial jobs and grunt work-basically  whatever the senior managers didn’t want or feel like doing got passed off to me only to sign their names to the completed works. I had to scrape-many nights of eggs & rice…many weeks of borrowing from one payday loan to pay another and when referrals came in to buy from me, the salesperson inherited the full commission…while I got only a sliver of a percentage…

And you know what…

…it was the best thing that could’ve happened to for me because it caused me to have to go to work on my new level. I had to work on my too’s…becoming too skilled, too educated, to know too much. I realized that too was a mindset not a destination-it’s not a place that I had to get to, it was a direction that I needed to head toward. It was at that point that whatever they handed me I took on and when I finished it, I asked for more.  I stopped trying to prove my worth to others & worked to create value to myselfbecoming in such a way that no one or no-thing can keep me or make me poor again. In retrospect, had they paid me what the senior managers were making, it would’ve destroyed me financially and personally. Becoming is your natural set point which is why you see those who get a windfall of money from an inheritance, settlement, or lottery,  piss right through large sums of money and often end up worse off than they initially were before-erroneously thinking that they had to first have in order to be. Having doesn’t make you, it reveals who you’ve worked toward becoming. 

Be and the have’s will come…

See, when you work first to become, even if they dropped you in a different city with $100 and no cell phone you’d parlay it into success…even if you got wiped out, you’d be the phoenix rising for the ashes of failure.

Don’t wish to have…work to become & even if you’re temporarily broke, you’ll never be poor again.

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Recently while I was loading clothes into the washing machine (yes I do laundry), my 7 year old son stood there talking about a little bit of everything. In between saying, “really,” and “ah-ha” he confessed to me, “Dad, I’m gonna to be famous and make my own shoes like Michael Jordan.” This struck a chord with me; when did we begin to put boundaries on our dreams? When did we cease to prophetically claim that we would be the most famous athlete, President of the United States, an astronaut, or ga-billionaire? Why did we stop building multi-million dollar mansions made from pine straw, 2×4’s riddled with nails, and jagged pieces of plywood? What happened to the 600 horsepower roadster sculpted from the old Sears refrigerator box? When did the world famous rich, chocolaty mud pie factory close? Are we now living a life as the best there never was?

When did we thwart striving and begin surviving? When did good enough trump excellence? When did we cash in our passion for a pension? It’s estimated that 1 out of every 3 Americans are living an unsatisfied life; if they never wake to see tomorrow, 100 million people will die with two 6 letter words tattooed on their heart: Excuse and Regret. When we live our lives making excuses, we will surely die with regrets; you cannot have one without the other. Excuses are reasons, justifications on why we are playing it safe. On the outside we are marching in line with life’s drumbeat, while our inner child longs to reveal its fiery desires and boundless dreams growing despondent and sorrowful along the way.

Instead of chasing our dreams, we’ve allowed circumstances of life to chase us. It’s as if the roles have been reversed; life is the greyhound and we are now the rabbit. Circumstances are the building blocks of character; it’s the mortar in between our bricks of life. One brick at a time, circumstance after circumstance, our wall becomes erected. Occasionally the calamities of life will sledgehammer into our wall; you cannot bring down walls with one swing of the sledgehammer-nor will one calamity bring down your life.

It’s time to push all of your chips in and play what is seemingly is your last hand. It isn’t though; two new 6-letter words, Belief and Action, will cause you to win this hand. With belief, you can either live up to other people’s expectations (if there is such a thing) in you or you can believe in yourself. Belief and Action are conjoined at the hip of successful people. Michael, Bill, Warren, Oprah, even Mr. 20 Car Monthly, have one thing in common; they believe in themselves and because of their belief, they put it into action.

Being defeated is often a temporary condition; it’s the belief in yourself that causes you to stand up, dust yourself off and get back into the arena of life.  Giving up is what makes it permanent, consuming you with a life of making excuses and fading into obscurity with regret- with the eulogy simply reading, The Best There Never Was.